I recently had the opportunity to watch a compelling documentary on Netflix that immediately sparked a deep line of questioning about the current state of manhood.
Louis Theroux is back, delivering a thought-provoking, and arguably controversial, look into the so-called ‘manosphere.’ This feature-length documentary, titled Louis Theroux: Inside The Manosphere, follows Louis from the sun-drenched streets of Miami to the exclusive resorts of Marbella, introducing us to the figures and followers who are actively working to reshape—and in the view of many, radicalise—the fundamental ideas that young men hold about masculinity and manhood. The film premiered on March 11th and is currently available to watch on Netflix.
Watch on Netflix: https://www.netflix.com/title/81920687
A Crisis of Masculinity?
Setting aside my own critical observation that the documentary seems to miss the mark in several ways concerning an accurate portrayal of the “manosphere” as a whole, the central question it raises is unavoidable: What has truly become of masculinity in this contemporary age? It feels distinctly like a profound departure from the values and examples that shaped my own understanding—the quiet strength, responsibility, and moral compass I learned from my father, his generation of friends, and the elders who were formative influences in my life.
This widespread cultural conversation about what it means to be a man has only intensified following the documentary’s release.
Performative vs. Authentic Masculinity
Louis Theroux’s documentary, by highlighting polarizing figures such as Andrew Tate, has thrust the debate about masculinity back into the mainstream spotlight. The figures gaining the most attention are often those championing a rigid, aggressive, and often explicitly anti-feminist brand of manhood. However, I believe the core of the public discussion is fundamentally misplaced, focusing too narrowly on the symptoms of a societal malaise rather than its historical root. We are witnessing a public obsession with performative masculinity—a hollow, manufactured display—while the genuine article, authentic masculinity, remains obscured.
A closer look at history suggests that the issue is not with the concept of masculinity itself, but rather with the distorted form it has been allowed to take in a modern, disconnected world. Historically, the virtues associated with manhood—strength, courage, discipline, and protectiveness—were not divorced from morality, honor, and self-control. They were, in fact, contingent upon them.
Consider the early 19th century in Britain, where one of the most celebrated men was a legendary prizefighter named John “Gentleman” Jackson (1769–1845). Jackson was a brutal, successful combatant by trade—the bare-knuckle champion of England. Yet, he was simultaneously revered as a mentor and teacher, a man who commanded the respect and admiration of poets, politicians, and the upper echelons of society, including the renowned Romantic poet Lord Byron.
Jackson’s nickname, “Gentleman,” was earned not in spite of his profession, but because of the character he demonstrated within and outside of it. He embodied a powerful, physical form of masculinity tempered by discipline, integrity, and grace. He founded a highly respected academy for “pugilistic science” where he taught the aristocracy how to fight, not just for aggression, but as a discipline—a way to build physical fortitude and moral courage. Jackson understood that true strength required a gentle hand and a well-regulated mind. His legacy serves as a powerful reminder that the man of action and the man of character were once considered two sides of the same coin, proving that genuine power is rooted in self-mastery, not dominance over others.
The modern crisis, therefore, is not a crisis of masculinity but a crisis of character. In the absence of authentic examples, men are adopting extreme, cartoonish personas—the performative mask—to signal belonging and strength in a world that offers them few genuine rites of passage or moral frameworks. The challenge is to retrieve the historical, richer understanding of authentic masculinity, one where strength is in service of honor, and power is a tool for responsibility.
So, what accounts for the dramatic shift between Jackson’s era and our own?
The key distinction lies between performative masculinity—a superficial display often built on aggressive posturing and material wealth—and the authentic, enduring masculinity that is forged through pressure, genuine responsibility, and meaningful real-world experience.
From the raw, unscripted arenas of Georgian prizefighting, where survival depended on raw grit and honor, to the controlled, highly-regulated environments of modern combat sports like professional boxing, MMA, and jiu-jitsu, a consistent, undeniable thread of authentic masculine development exists. This profound thread connects acts of physical courage—the willingness to face a difficult opponent or challenge—with the deeper, often overlooked necessity of moral responsibility. The courage displayed in the ring must be mirrored by the integrity shown in life. The pursuit of genuine manhood is not, in my view, what the popular media—or the sensationalist documentary that seeks to define it through controversy and fleeting trends—is currently suggesting.
The genuine path to manhood is rarely found in the fleeting glow of viral videos, the performative posturing on social media, or the insular, aggressive echo chambers of online discourse. Instead, it is forged in the crucible of real-world experience: in the demanding, challenging, and often painful character-building experiences of life. It’s found in showing up when it’s difficult, honoring one’s commitments, and accepting the full weight of one’s consequences. This is a path of action, not mere assertion.
So, what is authentic masculine development? It is the conscious, continuous effort to integrate strength with discipline, courage with compassion, and capability with humility. It is the journey of transforming latent potential into reliable, ethical action.
Authentic masculine development is not a passive state, but a dynamic, lifelong process of self-cultivation. It is the conscious, continuous effort to integrate inherent strength—both physical and mental—with rigorous self-discipline, ensuring power is directed constructively and ethically. This development requires merging profound courage—the willingness to face fear and uncertainty—with genuine compassion, extending kindness and understanding outward to others and inward to oneself. Furthermore, it demands combining robust capability and competence—the honed skills and knowledge to navigate the world effectively—with deep humility, acknowledging one’s limitations and remaining open to growth and learning.
Fundamentally, this is the demanding yet profoundly rewarding journey of transforming latent potential—the raw abilities, the undiscovered strengths, and the deep, often intimidating emotional and intellectual reserves within every man—into reliable, ethical, and courageous action in the world.
It is about moving past passive contemplation to active contribution; not merely possessing good intentions, but consistently embodying them. This process is the crucible for building a resilient character, one that is emphatically not defined by outdated metrics of bravado, unearned confidence, or the need for dominance and control over others.
The modern definition of manhood is not built on outdated stereotypes of stoicism or physical dominance, but on a more robust and ethical framework anchored by three fundamental principles: Unwavering Integrity, Profound Responsibility, and The Commitment to Purpose and Service.
1. Unwavering Integrity
This is the bedrock of modern manhood. Integrity is the active and constant commitment to align one’s private reality—core values, secret thoughts, and internal moral compass—with one’s public life—spoken words, outward actions, and decisions. It is not merely the absence of deceit, but the presence of consistent moral discipline.
- Trustworthiness and Transparency: It means being a reliable person whose word is a bond. This involves transparency in one’s dealings, sharing intentions honestly, and avoiding the creation of misleading appearances.
- Accountability Before Coercion: A man of integrity holds himself accountable for his actions and failures before external pressure or discovery forces him to do so. This proactive ownership is a hallmark of true character, demonstrating self-respect and respect for others.
- The Cost of Convenience: Integrity is most critically tested when it is inconvenient or costly. The modern man chooses the harder, ethical path over the easier, compromised one, even if it entails financial loss, social discomfort, or personal sacrifice.
2. Profound Responsibility
Manhood demands an active and conscious acknowledgment of one’s duties and the subsequent, vigorous effort to shoulder those burdens. It is an expansive concept of duty that extends far beyond self-interest.
- Duty to Self and Growth: Responsibility begins with the self—to maintain one’s health, mental acuity, and moral fitness, and to continuously strive for personal development and emotional maturity.
- The Family and Immediate Community: This involves providing stability, emotional support, and leadership within one’s family unit, and being a reliable pillar within one’s immediate circle of friends and colleagues. It is the commitment to not be a burden, but a source of strength.
- Ownership of Mistakes and Repair: A profound sense of responsibility means taking complete ownership of one’s missteps, failures, and the consequences they create. It is not enough to simply apologize; the modern man dedicates his energy, resources, and time to the arduous process of repair, reconciliation, and subsequent behavioral growth.
- Civic and Global Duty: Extending one’s sphere of responsibility to the wider community and the world, recognizing a duty to contribute to social justice, environmental stewardship, and the overall well-being of the broader society.
3. The Commitment to Purpose and Service
The essence of a meaningful life, and therefore of modern manhood, lies in transcending purely selfish or material pursuits. A man must find a meaningful mission that drives him, dedicating his unique gifts and energy toward its realization.
- Identifying a Mission: This requires deep introspection to identify a purpose, mission, or cause that resonates with one’s core values—whether it is in art, business, education, or community activism. The mission acts as a moral and professional compass.
- Contribution Over Consumption: The energy and talents developed are not merely tools for personal gain or accumulating wealth, but are deployed in service of this greater purpose. This means intentionally fostering an environment of support, opportunity, and flourishing for those within one’s influence—mentoring, building, and contributing to systems that benefit others.
- Leaving a Legacy of Value: The ultimate aim is to leave the world, or at least one’s corner of it, better than one found it. This service-oriented mindset transforms ambition from a narcissistic pursuit into a powerful engine for collective good.
True strength, in this elevated and complex context, is fundamentally redefined. It is not measured by physical dominance or unfeeling stoicism. Instead, it is measured by self-control in the face of temptation, emotional intelligence in navigating relationships and internal conflicts, and the quiet, persistent effort—the daily grind of doing the right thing—required to maintain these high ethical standards amidst the inherent complexities, temptations, and ceaseless challenges of the modern world.
So, how does this process of authentic masculine development apply specifically to an angoleiro?
An angoleiro, as a practitioner of Capoeira Angola, embodies a role deeply rooted in tradition, community, and a nuanced understanding of self and history. The journey of masculine development for an angoleiro is intrinsically linked to the philosophy and practice of their art.
Embracing Tradition and History: Authentic masculinity, in this context, requires the angoleiro to deeply internalize the history and lineage of Capoeira Angola. This is not merely an intellectual exercise but a physical, emotional, and spiritual connection to the masters, or mestres, who preserved and developed the art. The maturity of the angoleiro is reflected in their respect for tradition, their commitment to the established rituals of the roda, and their dedication to passing this cultural heritage on to the next generation. This act of preservation is a powerful expression of responsible manhood—one that honors the past to enrich the future.
The Role of Malícia and Patience: The jogo (game) of Capoeira Angola demands qualities that mirror authentic masculine maturity. Malícia, often mistranslated as malice, is better understood as cunning, street-smarts, and psychological wisdom. A developed angoleiro uses malícia not for aggression, but for strategic self-protection and to control the flow of the game. Coupled with this is profound patience. The slow, grounded movements of Angola require the discipline to wait, to observe, and to choose the precise moment for action—a metaphor for thoughtful, measured conduct in life outside the roda.
Leadership and Community (The Roda): The roda itself is a microcosm of community and leadership. The angoleiro’s development is evident in their capacity to lead the music, maintain the energy of the roda, and ensure the safety and inclusion of all participants. True strength is demonstrated not through physical dominance, but through the ability to harmonize the group, support newer players, and humbly accept correction from elders. This sense of shared responsibility and servant leadership is a cornerstone of mature masculinity.
Groundedness and Self-Knowledge: The low, close-to-the-earth stance of Capoeira Angola symbolizes groundedness and humility. Authentic masculine development for the angoleiro involves cultivating this internal state—being rooted in one’s values, aware of one’s limitations, and connected to the immediate reality of the moment. The constant, subtle dialogue between two players in the jogo forces intense self-awareness. The angoleiro must know his own fears, strengths, and reactions to truly engage with his partner, a process that accelerates self-knowledge and emotional regulation.
In essence, for the angoleiro, authentic masculine development is a lifelong process articulated through the practice of Capoeira Angola—a commitment to wisdom over brute strength, community service over personal glory, and historical reverence over fleeting trend.
Jogo Corpo Fechado 